It's no secret
that poor eating can lead to obesity, adult onset diabetes & heart
disease. Why then is it so difficult to get a handle on eating issues?
Dissecting disorderly eating needs good detective work. Time after
time, my research in weight & addictions management uncovers a multifaceted
problem, including an interesting form of denial that is connected
to a positive force.
a high profile television writer, who attended one of my workshops.
Her food & beverage intake assessment made it easy to know why she
was overweight & I was surprised that she didn't seem to know this.
When I suggested some changes she became incredibly angry & went
into a tirade about how stress filled her days were & if this was
the way, she certainly would have done it by now.
an emotional eater & will need a very different approach in order
to be successful at losing weight & staying away from diabetes. For
the emotional eater, the idea of changing one's eating habits can
be very frightening & even simple changes can be met with procrastination
The level of
creativity & emotional states enlisted to protect the self from even
beginning to change can be quite something to observe. Food related
thoughts play out in the VCR of the mind throughout the day & especially
when stress is high or when involved in triggering situations such
as shopping, restaurants, social occasions and the workplace.
have higher trigger value than others depending on the individual.
Some emotional eaters trigger when home alone or in the middle of
the night, even keeping food hidden under the bed to avoid bringing
attention to a cupboard raid. Others eat in cars, hiding wrappings
under the seat until they can dispose of them safely. Some binge
going home from work, a good time to release work stress before entering
can be intensely draining, attacking the emotional eater with real
physical and/or emotional pain. How does one begin to take control
of such a complex situation & stay motivated long enough to build
In my experience,
I like to take the emotional eater into a nutritional self discipline
& work forward from there. It helps to know that practicing poor
nutrition is not a small thing. It's akin to digging a big dangerous
hole while teetering on the edge. For most of us, there is no time
to waste. The following steps are etched into the mind & traced over
& over again.
to get to know herself & what her body needs. Each of us was born
with genetic tendencies towards all sorts of things, including certain
wonderful wake-up tools because they guide us towards knowing what
our body & mind needs in order to stay well over the course of our
lifetime. Ignoring genetics is asking for trouble.
The body & mind
have specific needs in relation to food & beverage, as well as timings
for having these. The body is a machine that needs to be taken care
of in a very specific way. If this is ignored the mind will be headed
for trouble as well. Everything is about getting this right.
eating means being willing to look at many aspects of our personality,
including the lessons of our early mentors, including parents, family
members, siblings, teachers, friends & whoever handed us our belief
system. Whether we are addicted or not, part of what ails us can
be found in these lessons.
Once we are
willing to identify these & not shy away, we can learn to release
them or at least part of them. Lynn-Ellen, like many of us, didn't
get the self nurturing
she needed as a child, or even later in life. Perhaps she weren't
allowed to express her emotions in a healthy manner. Maybe she didn't
learn to self-regulate or to set healthy boundaries for her self.
When these tools
of self-management are not sufficiently developed or missing entirely,
one tends to go to excess to manage the unresolved stress. Going
to excess over & over again, etches the habit into the subconscious
mind where it is ready answer to any stress chemical production..
It can certainly be frightening to be without one's habit when stress
The Higher Self
Each of us has
a Higher Self. This part is mature, balanced & knowing. This part
does not hide from the truth, no matter how painful. It embraces
it, getting to know it intimately. The Higher Self understands that
facing reality is the way to freedom from emotional eating. Connecting
frequently through the practice of Interactive Self-Hypnosis or specially
designed inner work allows one to self examine & to manage the surrounding
learning that managing her emotional eating is a journey in self
discovery & can be the catalyst for change throughout a good portion
of her life.
Bohorquez, RN is a Clinical Medical Hypnotist, President & Program
Designer, Sarasota Medical & Sports Hypnosis Institute located
in Sarasota, FL & online at www.hypnosis-audio.com
in teaching self-hypnosis for health, disease management, habit
control, self-improvement & sports enhancement. Her sites are
interactive & educational, offering +350 CD programs for adults,
kids, executives & athletes.
She is the
author of "Sugar...The Hidden Eating Disorder & How to Get Free".